Episode 01: The Foundations of Manifestation: Cultivating Safety as a (C)Trauma Survivor
Manifesting as a Trauma Survivor: Cultivating Safety and Inner Peace In this episode, we explore the unique challenges trauma and complex trauma survivors face when manifesting their desires.
Learn about the importance of cultivating a deep sense of safety within yourself, understanding your neurodivergency, and overcoming ingrained codependency.
We delve into the significance of safe thoughts and discuss how cultural conditioning impacts your ability to manifest.
Join us for an in-depth look at creating a life aligned with your true values, desires, and purpose while addressing the question, 'What is the cost of freedom?'
00:00 Introduction to Manifesting as a Trauma Survivor
00:51 The Importance of Safety in Manifestation
01:23 Understanding Neurodivergence and Safety
02:26 Honesty and Self-Exploration
04:03 Cultivating Inner Peace and Safe Thoughts
06:36 Overcoming Codependency
08:10 Embracing Independence and New Opportunities
09:47 Goal Setting and Cultural Barriers
12:12 The Cost of Freedom
Your life is a reflection of what you believe you are worthy of.
After going through experiences where you didn’t get what you want…
You might have picked up the idea that you don’t deserve your desires.
You don’t deserve good things. You don’t deserve life to work out for you.
From this standpoint, it’s easy to go into proving mode…
To go out of your way over and over again to prove how valuable you are. You’re always on edge. You are always observing the feedback
You always feel like something is missing… there is something more you need to achieve or be.
You can’t relax. You can’t let go. You can’t receive.
But when you connect the dots - from safety, trust and shame to guilt, expansion and love...everything falls into place.
Manifesting has never been so safe, so easy and so expected.
Transcript
Welcome to this very private space where we are going to dive deeply into how to manifest as a trauma survivor Or maybe you identify as a complex trauma survivor. How we manifest is so different to what we've been taught and there is no book out there that's going to give you this insight. In depth knowledge, know how and very tangible steps in how to manifest and get what you want.
Because right now you might be thinking things are working on and off. You see things online or offline, things are working for others. They could using all the tools that, you know, you've already tried for maybe years already. And you're like, Oh, there might be this one missing piece, but I'm going to take you through step by step.
That is actually going to work for you. And we are going to start this call off with safety. We're going to talk a little bit about how, when you don't cultivate a deep sense of safety inside of yourself, it is going to be impossible to manifest. Because feeling safe, not only receiving, but asking, um, moving, making decisions, there's so many elements to feeling safe that this is the first pillar we're going to speak about today.
Um, what I want to tap into very right at the beginning of this episode is neurodivergence. So I know that most of my clients are, or identify as female, um, and have not received any diagnosis, right? Your brain might be working differently to others. And I think that is a big reason. Not only might it does it's wired differently as a complex trauma survivor as a trauma survivor Your brain is wired differently.
So you might not have a diagnosis. You might not identify with being neurodivergent But this being neurodivergent has to take you back Back into your body to manifest. If you don't feel safe, this might be unconscious and you won't, there will be some elements to this for you personally, that you can explore in your own time where you're like, that's actually where I don't really feel safe.
Yeah. That's what I don't really feel safe yet because what we did a lot was lie to ourselves. To survive. So one of the key elements is looking at really being honest with yourself, not trying to manifest to get away from, but be really honest with yourself around where and how are you lying to yourself around this is what I need, this is what I need to feel.
Because exploring safety in your life, looking at it in your business, in your private life, with friends, when you're going out, wherever you're going, is going to help you release a little bit of that so good things can come to you because you deserve them to. And you deserve to create a, an incredible life, an incredible business that really is aligned with what you're doing.
With your values, your integrity, your desires, and your sole purpose. So understanding your neurodivergency and that your brain is wired differently, but you can rewire it at any time is really key because I think for a very long time, a lot of my clients felt misunderstood. They felt overlooked. They felt like nobody's getting them.
And I really want you to sit with this exploration of safety. In your in your life because when you don't feel safe, it's going to be hard to receive because One element of receiving could be I have to do something for that. I can't just receive it's not safe to receive Maybe you received in a way that there was always an element of you having to do something for it Or, uh, perform for it.
So just receiving and feeling safe to receive is one whole episode in itself. We want to also look in these episodes coming up at inner peace and being consistent at the thoughts you are thinking. So one S one aspect is looking at safety. That might be more somatic, but the other aspect that really is Absolutely important is how safe are your thoughts, how safe are they for you, for yourself and you might have children, you might not have children, maybe friends you dearly love, family members, how would you feel if they had these thoughts about themselves, what would you say to them, one aspect of feeling safe in your body is looking at your thoughts and how safe they are for you.
And we might have that inner critic and we might have that inner voice saying, that's not enough for that. You should have done that better. So a great way to start is to reframe what safe thoughts feel like to you. And this is where. It's really hard to help because it has to feel you've got to feel it.
It might be something like, you know, um, Not using toxic positivity, but something positive that feels That feels reach you can grasp for yourself that makes that that has that Click, right? So it might be, they are no, um, negative experience. They just, you know, soul enhancing or, you know, the universe is always working out in my favor.
Everything's a blessing in disguise. So there might be some forms of exploration here, some thought forms that you'd like to use that. Feel safe and start small. We're not about performance over here. Start with, with, um, thoughts that just feel a little bit better than the ones you had, because otherwise we're going to drop, you might drop it altogether.
It's just a little bit better. It might just be day by day. Might be you wake up today and you're like, I'm expecting miracles today. And it might be finding five cents piece on the floor. It might be something else, but it. Take it as a little, a little step above where you are today. So that is where we looking at cultivating a little bit of more inner peace and consistency in our thoughts.
So we can trust ourselves to create safety. There is this unspoken rule that we. Well, trauma survivors agree on that not being safe is okay. That is something that we have to work on with our thoughts and also with our body, right? One of the things that trigger, um, our safety is that we were taught that being codependent is safe.
So a lot of my clients, You know, they're like, I don't know what is going on. I know, I feel the success. I feel all these clients around me or I feel this book coming through, whatever it might be that you, that you're really desiring and you know, it is so close, but it requires independence. It requires you to make decisions on your own.
It requires you to step out of your comfort zone. All of those things can't feel safe. If the one thing you've been taught that is safe is codependency. If you, because what happens when you aren't codependent, you aren't relying on someone to make that decision for you or relying on the external to validate you or relying on these things.
things, you have to suddenly step up and that can be very, very scary. So one part of creating safety within yourself is also contemplating and looking at the areas you are still falling into codependency because it feels safer. So you might have the desire to be WALL E, um, independent, but you really can't because unconsciously your beliefs of that is not safe, it's not safe to not Be dependent on someone, look at the things that have happened and look at all the ways I failed where someone has had to save me or be there for me or take, you know, uh, save me from certain situations.
Um, one other element of this that I've written down, um, for clients is actually embracing strangers and new opportunities. So where you might be trying to manifest incredible things if you still Unconsciously scared of being independent, going out there, doing the things because you're relying on someone else to be there for you.
There might be an element of actually being scared of meeting new people. What are they going to think? They're going to say, what does new opportunities bring with them? Well, you've got to make decisions. You've got to face them. You've got to show up. How can I show up without, you know, having someone there?
That is another element of safety of looking at how safe do you feel to, to, to receive new clients? How safe do you feel to receive new opportunities? Maybe your business is working wonderfully and you really are desiring new opportunities or more, um, Collaborations. But if that doesn't feel safe, it's not going to show up in your reality.
Same with goals. If you have these incredible goals, but the cost is you are no longer codependent, you might be in a relationship and this cost means you are so successful that you are actually the dynamic in any relationship changes. That's not safe. As long as the dynamic stays the same. You save, but as soon as there's more success or there are more opportunities on more collaborations or more clients coming in, things are going to shift.
The dynamics going to shift. You might have to hire people. You're going to have to make decisions becoming more independent. It's a real thing that complex trauma survivors or trauma survivors actually have Are afraid of when we also look at that goal setting if there's a big money goal It doesn't mean it's not there everything that you are desiring right now because your thoughts of things is around you So the only question is always why isn't it here yet?
There's something for you to clear and look at and also make sure it's not a desire. That's not Saving you, but is it a real desire of the heart? Right. And when we're looking at goal setting, you, let's say, for example, you are trying to hit a big money goal. You won't be able to hit that if you scared of what happens when that does.
Transpire, right? Are you going to go, like I just said in that, are you going to step into that, um, into a different dynamic with your partner, with your, your business partner, with your family, what are your family members going to say when you suddenly so successful and nobody's really been successful before you.
So here are all the things we want to look at that could create. Or that are unconsciously creating a feeling of non safety inside of you. We also looking at, um, childhood conditioning. We're looking at where things did feel safe, when things did not feel safe. So this is really an invitation to look at all the areas that you might not have looked at where you just don't feel safe.
What we want to also look at, and I think this is a big part of even becoming majestic is at cultural barriers. So when we have clients from different cultures, we also want to look at, and you want to look at what are the cultural binds or beliefs or thought forms that are holding you back. So in the manifesting space, everything's very.
Black and white, right? But we really are missing the cultural pieces here. We want to look at your culture. Where are women, men, them, they, whatever you, you identify with, how are they treated? What is safe for them? What is not safe for them? What has been with your culture and. For, for, for years, hundreds of years, this is also an aspect.
So looking at your culture, looking at how women were treated, looking, or men, or them or they again, um, apologies, then we really want to bring that into our. Addressing safety within the culture because at the end of the day when you cultivate that deep safety inside of you You rediscover your true self and the true self is free So i'm going to leave you with one question.
What is the cost of freedom sit with this? Look at where you feel really free where you don't feel free. What are the thoughts and beliefs that come up? What is the cost of freedom? of freedom. On that note, looking forward to speaking to you again. And until then, bye.