Episode 6: Breaking Free from Self-Betrayal: Honesty as the Key to Manifestation
Breaking Free from Self-Betrayal: Honesty as the Key to Manifestation
In this episode, we explore how self-betrayal prevents trauma survivors from manifesting their deepest desires. Starting with the idea that safety drives many of our decisions, we uncover how small, daily acts of self-betrayal erode self-trust, creating a loop of doubt that blocks manifestation. Drawing inspiration from Eleanor Roosevelt’s quote, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent,” we examine how giving consent to others over our truth begins this cycle.
We’ll dive into practical ways to reclaim honesty, rebuild self-trust, and shift into co-creation rooted in faith rather than fear.
Episode Highlights:
00:00 - Introduction: Why Honesty is Hard for Trauma Survivors
• How learned self-deception creates blocks in manifestation.
02:00 - The Root of Self-Betrayal and Doubt
• Exploring how small daily betrayals of our truth lead to diminished self-trust.
04:00 - Faith as the Antidote to Fear
• Why faith in your choices feels expansive and allows desires to manifest effortlessly.
06:00 - Healing Through Self-Trust
• How rebuilding trust starts with recognizing and eliminating self-betrayal.
08:00 - The Role of Faith in Expanding Possibilities
• Discovering the joy of faith-driven decisions and how they yield abundance (30, 60, or 100-fold).
10:00 - Overcoming Doubt: Trusting Yourself to Make the Right Choices
• How healing sharpens your ability to make aligned decisions despite ego-driven fears.
This episode challenges you to reflect on where you’re not being fully honest with yourself and to examine how self-betrayal impacts every area of life. By shifting from self-doubt to faith, you unlock the freedom and abundance you deserve. Start small, change one thing at a time, and watch as your self-trust grows—opening the door to aligned manifestation and empowered co-creation.
Your life is a reflection of what you believe you are worthy of.
After going through experiences where you didn’t get what you want…
You might have picked up the idea that you don’t deserve your desires.
You don’t deserve good things. You don’t deserve life to work out for you.
From this standpoint, it’s easy to go into proving mode…
To go out of your way over and over again to prove how valuable you are. You’re always on edge. You are always observing the feedback
You always feel like something is missing… there is something more you need to achieve or be.
You can’t relax. You can’t let go. You can’t receive.
But when you connect the dots - from safety, trust and shame to guilt, expansion and love...everything falls into place.
Manifesting has never been so safe, so easy and so expected.
Transcript
Welcome to episode six. I really want to share something incredible with you guys, and you might know this already, you might not, but it just came to me and I thought, let me run up, let me recall this for you on the weekend, because I think this might change how you manifest and co create your life because.
In the manifestation world, in the co creative bubble, it's all about being really honest with yourself. So we've spoken about in the last episode, we've spoken a little bit about the inversion method, right? Thinking about what you don't want because that bypasses a lot of the ego and the desires that are created to, to feel safe or be seen as safe or to just be safe.
So everything really comes back to safety at the end of the day. But here's the thing. They often say, Oh, be really honest with yourself. Right? As if that were so easy because at the end of the day, and here's where this hidden thing comes in for us. We aren't honest to ourselves. Like we have learned to lie to ourselves all the time.
To be safe, to feel safe, and to not be a threat, to not seem as a threat. So while other people might find it so much easier to manifest and co create, we have to uncover these things or these lies we tell ourselves to actively co create and to actively find the righteous desires of our heart. And there's this one saying I heard, or I read somewhere from, um, Eleanor Roosevelt, who said, No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
So to start this story off, it's really about who did not give you the opportunity to be honest with yourself. That's kind of where we want to start. Where, because when people ask trauma survivors or complex trauma survivors, where did it start? Well, what a stupid question. It's you, we, we, we don't have the answer for that.
And, and most of the things are. Really deeply embedded and not in our consciousness for reason, but we can look at when we gave consent to someone else. When did someone else receive that consent from us, right? Because that is the beginning of self betrayal and self betrayal is the root of not getting what you want at the end of the day, because you're betraying yourself instead small ways every single day.
And that means you don't really trust yourself. Which means that you essentially are doubting that your, every righteous desire of your heart is yours. And you see how that's like that loop that just keeps playing. So you can create as many vision boards and, and as many affirmations and read as many books as you like, but if you are still betraying yourself, Every little day, it's going to create doubt.
And that doubt is because of. Bye. The little lying pieces that we still create to keep ourselves self safe because at the end of the day That is the only thing that's kind of at the back of that is what's what is um pumping through our veins when our nervous system is kind of the fight or flight you know thing is is kicking in um That's kind of where that loop comes from.
So at the end of the day, for this podcast episode, I really want you guys to look at where are you not honest with yourself, where are you still betraying yourself, right? So I know this might be a harsh word, self betrayal, but it's such a big Pivotal part of our journey. So when you're data to other small things, it's always those small things.
And that's when we start changing one little thing after another, and that increases our self trust. And when you increase your self trust, you no longer give your consent to anybody else to make decisions. You know, to, to follow your dreams or follow desires, you actively start having faith. Faith is really the thing that moves mountains.
And I can't stress this enough, but faith feels really good. So a lot of times it's like, Oh, stretch yourself to, you know, to receive, I don't. Believe that I feel like when I have those moments where it is really, and I've had them so many times where I make a decision and it doesn't make sense. Um, and I'll just take money wise.
It's just so many times it didn't make sense. I didn't have the funds and I realized, I noticed that this is, it's this incredible feeling of expansion of when I Think about paying it. And I know with every fiber of my being that this is the right decision. I make it, it just comes back threefold. That's just how it is.
Tenfold. Um, although I do want to say at this point that I did read parts of the Bible. I do this now and again when I'm guided to it. And Jesus actually said that it returns 30, 60 or a hundred fold. So I don't know where the 10 fold comes from, but that's really downplaying it. It actually comes back 30 times.
60 or a hundred times. And that is a great thing because one thing we need as trauma survivors are choices, because contrary to popular belief, we actually can make choices really well. We know exactly what's right because we have created a different type of relationship with ourselves and with choices, the more we heal.
So I don't think that you have a problem making choices. I just believe you have a. A slight twinge of self doubt when making choices, right? And that's when the mind kicks in and the ego is like, are you sure you should? I don't know if you should be doing that. I don't know. But actually at the end of the day, I do believe, you know, exactly what you need to do and what's right for you.
So let's look at self betrayal. Let's look at how that plays into your day to day, every day. And also in regards to all areas of your life, relationship, money, business, Job, wherever you might be. So that's it for me today. I hope it was helpful and I'm sending you so much love.